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Friday, June 14, 2002
GOD’S WILL: About a week ago, the Protestant missionary Martin Burnham was killed when he was caught in the crossfire between his captors—the terrorist group Abu Sayyaf—and soldiers of the Philippine army. In the aftermath, some members of his family and church were quoted as saying that they were able to accept his death because they knew it was “God’s will.”

This morning, I watched an interview with the mother of a young man who had been raped by a priest at the age of 12 and who had ended up committing suicide several years later. She was asked by the reporter if these events had shaken her faith. She replied that her faith was as strong as ever. “I know that God did not want this to happen to my son. I know He doesn’t want it to happen to anyone.”

The will of God is not an easy thing to discern, particularly when we try to explain suffering and death. For millennia, human beings have sought to fathom a deeper purpose behind their suffering. A common view among pagan religions was that suffering was a punishment for angering the Gods. But in the Book of Job, we are confronted with a different view. Job is a righteous man and he seems to have committed no sin that would justify his punishment. In the end, the only answer the Biblical author can offer is to confront Job, and the reader, with the overpowering majesty and “otherness” of God, before whom Job can only say that “I have dealt with great things that I do not understand…therefore I disown what I have said, and repent in dust and ashes.”

Such an answer, even if ultimately correct, seems to frustrate the human mind. We want to understand. It is in our nature. The risk is that in our quest to make suffering intelligible we make God into something He is not. It is no accident that the mass destruction and genocide that characterized the 20th century led to theologies that suggested that God was somehow incapable of preventing such evils. The alternative—that a gracious and loving God was capable of stopping the Holocaust but chose not to do so—seems almost too terrible to believe.

It is precisely because we believe in a God who does respond to prayer and who does intervene in the world that the burden of suffering becomes almost unbearable. We can imagine two men, both pious and devout, each of whom prays for the recovery of his terminally ill daughter. One daughter recovers, the other does not. The first man praises the God who saved his daughter. But what is the second man to think? That God did not wish his daughter to recover?

I confronted this question several years ago when a good friend of mine had breast cancer. She was a single mother in her early 40s, with two children in middle school. I prayed for her every night for three years, saying “God, if anyone deserves a break, it’s Peggy. Please don’t take her away from her kids.” In the end, though, she was not spared.

I do not have an answer. But I am skeptical of easy pieties. I don’t necessarily believe that Peggy’s death was part of any divine ‘master plan,’ although I don’t rule it out either. I am similarly skeptical of the view that God brings misfortune into our lives in order to make us better people, that suffering is the ‘blow of the sculptor’s chisel’ that makes us perfect. But I don’t entirely rule that out either.

In the end, I am thrown back, like Job, before the overwhelming mystery of God, who deals “with great things that I do not understand.” When I look up at the cross, I know that whatever suffering I must endure, I do not endure alone. Whether that suffering is the will of God, or something that gives Him great offense, I know that He loves me, that I can trust in Him, and that there is nothing, not even my death, that can separate me from Him.


posted by Peter Nixon 5:08 PM
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MORE INSPIRATION: There's a wonderful commentary on the Spiritual Exercises of Saint Ignatius in this week's Tablet that is definitely worth reading. Also worth reading are Father Shawn O'Neal's homily and Sean Gallagher's reflections on church history, both of which can be found on Nota Bene.

posted by Peter Nixon 2:07 PM
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LOOKING FOR INSPIRATION? It's been a tough week. If you're looking for a little inspiration, read these columns by Leonard Pitts and Father Ron Rolheiser on what it means to be a Christian.

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Tuesday, June 11, 2002
MAILBAG: Last week I published some reflections that raised some questions about the draft policies on clerical sexual abuse that have been floated by the U.S. Bishops. Those posts generated a significant amount of reader comment that I wanted to share with you.

There were a fair number of correspondents who, for various reasons, expressed skepticism about a “zero tolerance” policy for clerical sexual abusers. While most of these correspondents agreed that such a policy would be reasonable to deal with future incidents of abuse, it would not be an appropriate response to all incidents of past abuse. One reader wrote as follows:

I am a gay man who came to terms with his orientation in his post-seminary, post college late 20s. It was rough doing that because of a lack of prior sexual maturation of any kind. I did many stupid things during the process, many of which I am not proud. But I did them. And I learned over time about what is appropriate and acceptable and what is not. I also learned that there are many teenagers who are in flux about their sexual identities and look to an "older" man for advice, counsel and sexual experience. Right or wrong, that happened and continues to happen. It takes a mature and very well grounded man to resist temptation if his own psychosexual development is not equal to his chronological age.

I am not arguing against removing pedophiles from the priesthood. From what I have read, pedophilia, while maybe controllable, is basically incurable. Living with that kind of a burden renders a priest incapable of being a trusted pastor.

Those men who had sexual relations with teenagers are different and need to be looked at on a case-be-case basis. It is immoral and un-Christian to blanketly say "off with their heads." To do so negates our believe in redemption, conversion and the "firm amendment to sin no more." Time and time again we learn that so very many of these men changed and became productive, loved and ... in some cases ... model priests.
I received a similar perspective from a retired priest who questioned the fairness of defrocking priests who had one or two incidents in their past and had reformed:

What is such a defrocked priest to do? His ability to work or find a job is practically nil. He is disgraced, cut off from friends and the culture he has known for years. Will he be given a reasonable severance pay and some medical benefits. He has worked for slave wages for years, he is totally dependent on the church for medical and retirement benefits. He may be in his 60's or even much older. Where is the charity of Christ in all of this, especially when it concerns in many cases one, or even a few, acts of misconduct. We forgive everyone else, but no forgiveness for a human weakness. In this area I think Rome is indicating more adherence to the Gospel than many Americans. This is too harsh. Where is the compassion and forgiveness of Christ. I don't see it.
Another correspondent raised the difficult issue that relationships between teenagers and young adults are not exactly unknown in certain areas of the country or at certain points in our nation’s history:

There are several reasons why not all cases of sexual relations between adults and underage persons is truly criminal; worthy of punishment. The lady who taught my 6th grade Sunday school class was just 13 when she married her 21 year old army veteran boyfriend. They lived happily together for 40 years; reared and educated a large family who have contributed mightily to this little farming community where I live. How could she have "consented" at that age?
Another reader stressed that the ability to extend forgiveness was an important aspect of being a follower of Jesus Christ:

As parents of young children, it is tempting to cast the abuser into the pit but that is not the way of Christ. When our son was killed in an auto wreck, shorting before his 19th birthday, it was very difficult to be civil to his friend whose negligence caused [his] death but we were and it is one of the things I'm most grateful to God for; that HE gave us that grace. 18 yrs later we still keep in touch with that family.
There were readers who, while supporting a stricter policy in dealing with past offenses, still believed that the Church should continue to provide for the support of older priests who have been laicized:

Taking care of those guys is part of the clean up cost to this crisis. To abandon them now would be a weak, shallow, defensive action and would compound the wrong. Defrocked? Laicized? I don't really care what state they are busted down to, as long as they are kept away from people they can hurt and they are cared for the same way we take care of other sick priests. Don't break the agreement of "serve us and we will care for your needs.”
The Blog
View from the Core also commented on this question, noting that there is a provision in Canon Law that covers this particular situation:

If a priest has been removed from ministry, but not defrocked, the Ordinary is required to provide for his support. If a priest has been defrocked, the Ordinary may provide for his support if he has no other means.

Canon 1350 §1 In imposing penalties on a cleric, except in the case of dismissal from the clerical state, care must always be taken that he does not lack what is necessary for his worthy support.

§2 If a person is truly in need because he has been dismissed from the clerical state, the Ordinary is to provide in the best way possible.
There were also a large number of readers who found themselves, in many cases regretfully, supporting a “zero tolerance” policy:

I cannot recall any situation where I have agreed to a zero tolerance policy being adopted. It usually is nothing more then a knee jerk reaction to those who cannot use their God given thought processes to make distinctions. That being said, I see child molestation as being an evil so black that there can be no tolerance nor justification.
Here is another reader who wrote in a similar vein:

I agree with your frustration with a zero-tolerance standard for sexual abuse committed by priests. However, sadly, the Church has lost all credibility to deal with this problem. Those priests who sexually abuse children or adolescents after adoption of a zero-tolerance policy, regardless of their potential for rehabilitation, will pay a price not only for their own sins, but for the sins of the Church in protecting other abusers. For those few (or several) salvageable priests are "unfairly" laicized for abuses committed before the policy was adopted, that too will just have to be part of the Church's penance for tolerating abusers for so long. If the Church handled these cases of abuse with a stronger hand years ago we wouldn't be dealing with this now.
Some readers, however, thought any sympathy for the offenders was grossly misplaced:

You write regarding a one-time, offender: "Is it reasonable to remove the man from active ministry? Absolutely. Defrock him? Perhaps. But after a lifetime of service as a priest, it's a fair bet that his pension is the only thing he'll have to live on (plus a little Social Security) in his retirement. I'm a little uncomfortable just kicking him out the door and saying "fend for yourself."

Question: Since the victim has to live for the rest of his life with the consequences of such a priest's sin, regardless of his other accomplishments, service, etc., why the hell should the molester be given a walk for his "lifetime of service?" Use his pension to pay for the repairs on the damage he has done.
Finally, I received a letter from an attorney who has clearly given a great deal of thought to these matters and I believe her remarks are worth quoting at length. With regard to the proposed policy, she recommends the following:

1. Define what cannot be counterbalanced by competing considerations. This includes any form of felony, criminal sexual abuse. Why is this so? In brief, the Church -- in our law and order society -- cannot consider its members to be above the criminal law. It is also deeply hypocritical for an institution whose message includes profound respect for the weak and helpless among us, including efforts to criminalize -- or keep criminal -- activities (abortion, euthanasia) that are directed at killing the weak and helpless. Is it really any excuse that criminal sexual abuse is only aimed at wounding and not killing the weak and helpless? This is the way to oblivion.

2. Those who commit such conduct cannot be in charge of any pastoral setting. This is the point, even the main point -- to remove perpetrators from a setting in which they are able to engage in opportunistic behavior. Forgiveness operates in a different realm from trust. Ask any wife who has to deal with her husband's adultery. Can you forgive the drug addict? Surely you can. Should you put him in charge of dispensing and inventorying the narcotics? I don't think so -- for his good as well as for the good of patients and the institution as a whole.

3. For the less than criminal, a sliding scale is warranted, but it should be well-defined and well-advertised, insofar as possible. In the main, I agree with your concerns about so-called "three strikes" and "zero tolerance" approaches. However, it also bears remembering that we are not talking about large pools of uneducated potential criminals with only the most meager understanding of criminal law concepts. We are also not talking about criminal penalties. Serious education of all volunteers, teachers, camp counselors, as well as of priests, can be accomplished. I have set one of these programs up. It isn't easy, but it can be done.

4. Finally, try to remember that for anyone administering this system, it is deeply disorienting. Child sexual abuse is beyond the capacity of most people's imaginings, in ways that, (let's say) visiting a prostitute, is not. Ideally, you would include someone with background -- be it personal or professional -- that makes them capable of imagining the reality of child sexual abuse without having been personally scarred, even if you include other perspectives. I just went through training in representing children in custody cases, and an experienced judge participating in the course said, flatly, in the area of child sexual abuse, denial is the norm for nearly any adult whose life would be negatively affected if the perpetrator has to bear the consequences for his or her behavior. She once presided over a case in which a child bore four children by her biological father before the matter was finally referred to the criminal justice system. You say to yourself, "What does it take?" The answer is, "More than it ever should." In this respect, in dealing with child sexual abuse, the Church is beset by many of the same problems as society at large. It is not entirely apart. Having many different perspectives is necessary for this reason alone.
Thanks to everyone who wrote in.


posted by Peter Nixon 1:27 PM
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Monday, June 10, 2002
CATHOLIC PRESS UPDATE: With the much anticipated meeting of the U.S. Bishops scheduled to start later this week, it is not surprising that many Catholic periodicals are focused on issues related to the ongoing scandal.

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National Catholic Register anticipates at least one of the issues that may be discussed at this week’s meeting with a cover story on priestly celibacy, as well as an interview with Father Thomas McGovern, an Opus Dei priest who is also the author of Priestly Celibacy Today. This week’s editorial suggests that the Bishops should enforce a 1961 Vatican directive to deny ordination to homosexual men: “Does that sound old-fashioned and harsh? If it had been followed, countless victims would have been saved the severe trial of abuse by a priest.”

The British Catholic weekly The Tablet has a perspective on this week’s meeting of the Bishops. Richard Major notes that the Bishops are in an almost impossible position. They are caught between the demands of Catholic laypeople for stern measures against abusive priests, and Vatican concerns that the rights of priests not be sacrificed to assuage the demands of the U.S. press. At the same time, they are also caught between dueling liberal and conservative factions within the U.S Church, each of whom has its own explanation as to “what went wrong” and what the solution is. Major concludes:

Perhaps the most likely outcome in Dallas is that the bishops, neither condemning homosexuality as conservatives would want, nor questioning compulsory celibacy, as liberals would like them to do, will concentrate on those church structures that have allowed molestation to flourish. They will solemnly apologise, condemn sexual abuse of minors as a terrible crime as well as a grievous sin, and enforce nationally the sort of explicit and transparent regime recommended by the USCCB as far back as the mid-Eighties: suspending clergy as soon as they are accused, and until they are cleared; dealing with plaintiffs gently, rather than playing “hardball” in court; and always disclosing concerns to a priest’s new parish or diocese. The bishops may go further, decreeing that in future all credible accusations must be passed at once to civil prosecutors, and establishing lay review boards to investigate each accusation (a system long employed in Chicago and other dioceses, not always successfully).
America (subscription to the print edition required for access) generally endorses of the draft Charter for the Protection of Children and Young People that has been proposed by the U.S. Bishops. This week’s issue also contains a very moving reflection by Msgr. Henry Byrne about the impact of the events of September 11th on one New York neighborhood:

There is a deep personal quality to our losses on mid-Manhattan’s East Side and throughout our city. Husbands, wives, fathers, mothers, lovers, sons and daughters, relationships and future dreams were destroyed in the imploding twin towers. A wedding I was to perform in November did not occur. The groom, a bond trader in the south tower, was gone. Seven of my high school alumni were also lost. Across the street from my former rectory, the 13th Precinct lost Bobby Fazio and Moira Smith, mother of Patricia, age 2; Emergency Squad One lost Brian McDonnell.
The cover story of this week’s National Catholic Reporter is on the growing popularity of parish nursing ministries. The International Parish Nurse Resource Center estimates there are about 7,000 parish nurses in the United States today. NCR also has a disturbing and challenging reflection by a priest (whose name was kept anonymous) who describes the circumstances surrounding a sexual relationship he had with a teenage boy when he was in his mid-20s.

An editorial in this week’s Commonweal takes on the criticisms that some mid-level Vatican officials have leveled at the sex abuse policies emerging from the U.S. Bishops. There is also a disturbing article by Rand Richards Cooper that recounts some encounters he had with the priest who was principal of his Catholic grade school. Those looking to read something that does not focus on the clerical sex abuse scandal should peruse James A. Tamayo’s fine article on the challenges of defending the rights of migrants and refugees in the wake of September 11th.

In the wake of all these discussions, perhaps we would all do well to read Father Ron Rolheiser’s column in this week’s Tidings. Father Ron is talking about the Eucharist, but his comments clearly have wider application:

We simply fight too much about the Eucharist. Everyone, it seems, has an important, non-negotiable, truth that he or she feels may not, at any cost, be compromised: Catholics and Protestants fight over the real presence (at least over its vocabulary); feminists and traditionalists fight over language; liturgists fight with the common folk over how a service should be properly done; artists fight with the pious over liturgical aesthetics; choir directors fight with pastors over the choice of songs; priests fight with each other over the issue of concelebration; bishops fight with church boards over how liturgical space should be constructed, and people at Eucharistic services glare at each other and throw private tantrums because a certain song mentions dancing or names us as wretched sinners. Too often what's at stake under all this is more pride than truth, more the need to be right than the need to worship.


posted by Peter Nixon 4:37 PM
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INTERMITTENT POSTING ALERT: For a variety of reasons, posting this week is likely to be intermittent and there will not be the usual daily reflections. I apologize to my regular readers. I hope to post a Mailbag and a Catholic Press Update some time this week, but I can't make any promises as to when. For those looking for daily reflections on the daily readings, check out Sean Gallagher's musings at Nota Bene.

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